Learning To Build Assertive Confidence
Hello everyone! I wanted to respond to a recent comment that was addressed to the I Hate Bullies blog. This individual had accused me of advocating violence and that the best option is to walk away.
First off I belived this individual did not read the posts clearly. I have always stated that violence is the last option unless you were physically being assaulted. It is in this situation that you have the right to defend yourself within reason. If this means punching, or kicking to get away then by all means do so.
In Casey Haynes situation he was being punching repeatedly. If the bully was bigger who could have cause some serious injuries to Casey.
When I refer to fighting back against bullying it is not meant to be taking literally. Fighting back can mean physically in a violent situation. Fighting back can also mean getting law enforcement involved. Fighting back can mean getting the school board and administrators involved.
If someone just calls you a name then walk away. What is the big deal? As Bruce Lee once said I use the art of fighting without fighting. I teach my self-defense students this thinking all the time.
However I am not going to teach my students to be victims of violence. That starts by buiding their assertive confidence through training. Remember people who pick on other people look for weakness or perceived weakness in individuals. They want an easy target. Nobody is looking to pick on someone who will give them a hard fight. By developing your assertive confidence you will make yourself an undesirable target. You will walk with confidence, talk with confidence, and have a certain swagger.
As I always said it is easy to talk and walk away from a potential violent situation knowing you have the confidence to do something about it if needed.
